Who are you?

People always ask this question, "Who are you?" Instead of just replying, "me," we start to list off accomplishments, titles, relationships, characteristics (good and bad), and so on and so on. Plus so many will lie to portray who they would like to be. I started thinking...who am I? The first answer that came to me::"i don't know." I know my name, so no identity crisis going on, at least not yet. I know what I went to school for, I know my birth order, I know my role with the minors and all the others I choose to interact with. But is that all that DEFINES me? I don't think so. I know I can be really funny and I can also be a jerk (sweet jerk but none the less a jerk), but is that all to life? Many people spend their whole lives "finding" themselves. Why? Are you lost? Instantly I start thinking of a few people I know and they are lost, but they aren't even trying to "find" themselves, they are content in their chaos.

But back to this chaos in my mind (got to love an ADHD mind)...why waste time finding yourself and focus on your faults. We all have flaws and hang ups, but thats what makes us us. I have yet to meet a perfect person, or even a perfect poser that I liked. I'd be lying if I said I loved everything about me, but I love me and I can deal with the imperfections. I remember when I was younger, I hated the gap in my front teeth (it isn't huge, but I didn't like it). My teeth were straight so no need for braces. When I got into psychology, I even said that I would get veneers to cover the gap, so my clients wouldn't focus on it.   Then I learned that with ALL the issues my client's would come to a session with, my gap in between my teeth was no where near their concern radar. That and now I like my gap, its a distinctive description of me. And distinctive things about individuals separate us from the world. These distinctive traits usually take time to embrace, but that's life.


My purpose before I go on another tangent, is that I am no longer "finding" myself, but defining myself. Not defining myself for the next simpleton that asks, "who are you?" The sarcasm in me will probably just blink at them until the subject changes. Ask my name or what you would like to know. I've always been a little weird, eccentric, to the left, but I'm fun, and I wouldn't have it any other way! In defining myself, the characteristics and traits that I view favorable and(or) positive in others, I may try to add those to my life. It's my definition, so what I say goes.